Help/Analysis much appreciated

[TatYoong]

My husban and I havebeen trying to have a baby for almost 3 years. We have sort advice before and was told that we do not have descendent luck. Can anyone confirm this?

My husband has also been going through some rough times with his business and im wondering if 2009 would be a better year for him.

My DOB is 21/09/75 and my husband's is 05/03/75

[Xuan]

Hi TatYoong,

Can you provide birth times for both of you?

This piece of information is vital when analysing children pillar in Bazi.

Regards,
Xuan

[Willy]

Hi Xuan,

Her date of birth is 21/09/75, time 1501 and place singapore.
husband's is 05/03/75, time 0050 and place singapore.
Tatyoong made the request under http://fengshuiforward.com/forum/index.php?topic=234.msg4868#new


And I think the problem lies more with the husband. And it is during the luck cycle 25-34. They might have better chance soon. What you  think?

[Xuan]

Hi Willy,

While I was analysing her children pillar, I saw something else.

Her chart is a a rather cold chart, hence Fire element is her most favourable element, which represents your husband star and it is sitting in the spouse palace. Her LP Zi and Spouse palace Wu is my concern now. What do you think?

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Hi Tat Yoong,

I dont mean to side track here, just that it caught my attention. Without good health, it may be hard to conceive too.

Do you or your husband has a health condition - related to the heart?

Tat Yoong's Chart

                        LP   2009
甲 庚 乙 乙     戊   己
申 午 酉 卯     子   丑
------------
庚 丁 辛 乙
壬 己
戊


Husband's Chart

                         LP   2009
丙 庚 戊 乙      乙      己
子 戌 寅 卯      亥     丑
------------
癸 戊 甲 乙
    辛 丙
    丁 戊

[Ken]

Hi Xuan,

For Tat Yoong chart, it does not show a lack of affinity with children.  However, you are right to surmise that the problem could have been more to do with her health.

In fact, I have the same line of thought with your Ba Zi assessment of her husband as well.  Later on, I will try other tools to read it.

[TatYoong]

I would like to thank you all for taking the time to help with the analysis. Xuan, I do have a very minor heart problem (mitral valve prolaspe), discovered it when i was 15 and learnt that I was born with it, however when i last went for my check up last year, I was assured that it was nothing serious at all and should not affect my general health. I am not on any medication whatsoever. Other than that, we do not have any health problems that we know of. 

With regards to "Her chart is a a rather cold chart, hence Fire element is her most favourable element, which represents your husband star and it is sitting in the spouse palace. Her LP Zi and Spouse palace Wu is my concern now." Would appreciate if someone could explain what this means?

As I mentioned to Willy in another thread, in reference to his comment that "I see the problem lies more with your husband. And it is during the luck cycle 25-34", I wanted to add that my husband has also had very trying times with his business/career the past few years, would that hopefully change soon as well?
 

[Ken]

Hi TatYoong,

Any major event in your life to share so that we can corroborate?  There is a possibility you belong to another hour's chart.

[TatYoong]

Major event? Hmm... anything in particular you are looking for? At the top of my head, I cant think of any one thing that stands out. Perhaps for my husband? Some 2 years ago, he made a very bad business decision which ended up plunging him into huge debt.

Okay from what you guys are saying, its scaring me haha! Is something suppose to happen to me?

[Xuan]

Hi Tat Yoong,

Both of you knew each other since young - perhaps secondary or college sweet heart couple?

Based on your husband chart, his spouse palace sits a favourable star, which is you. However, when it comes to wealth, you will have better luck then him (maybe you come from a well-to-do family?) and you might have final influence in most decision making.

Your desire to have baby is strong although not express outwardly and your husband might feel the pressure, yet does not share his true feelings with you, because he loves you and wants you to be happy.

Mental stress can affect conception too. Not only for your husband, but yourself too. Can you imagine, you have an objective in mind in every intimacy, you bring unnecessary stress upon yourself and partner sub-conciously - Not healthy. Children is the fruit of a couple's love.

Even though you love each other, how openly do you share your thoughts with each other?

Is your husband a reserve type of person?

Communication - may need to pay more attention in area, perhaps?

Do share with me your feedback.

Hope to hear from other views too.

Regards,
Xuan

[Willy]

Hi Xuan and Tat Yoong, I used ZWDS to see the chance of conception for the couple. Generally, both basic charts have no major problem except that the male chart showed signs that he is unable to have any child before the age of 25.

Hi Tat Yoong, is your husband still in business? What type of business or his industry if he is an employee?

[Xuan]

Hi Tat Yoong & Willy,

Based on Bazi analysis, Tat Yoong's chart does not indicate any problem in having children too.

Regards,
Xuan

[Willy]

Yes Xuan, you are right! That must have sounded like great news for the couple . But I think that work stress may still hamper their chances...so Tat Yoong, do take care of health n diet

[TatYoong]

Hi Xuan, thank you for your reply. Yes we have been together for more than 12 years already, since university days. I would not go so far as to say that I come from a well-to-do family, but I have been blessed and am very content in that sense. His family on the other hand, have gone through some rough times financially but nevertheless all is well now.

In terms of our communication, I would like to think that we are each other's best friend as we have gone through a lot together. With regards to having a baby, I guess our greatest fear is that if we postpone it any longer, it will become even more difficult in the future, especially since we are not getting any younger. But we do talk about it and agree that we can only try and hope for the best. Thats why we have opted for the TCM approach as we find it less stressful than western medicine. But after some months of TCM, I am wondering if and when we should go back to western medicine. I am in a bit of a dilemma right now and it does add to the stress of it all.

Hi again Willy, my husband is now running his own events company. You mentioned before about his luck cycle 25-34, what significance does that have? Yes you guys are right, my husband is definitely under a lot of stress, working very hard to build his company and clear his debts. Thank you for your advice, we find that the TCM medicine we are taking also helps improve our general health as well

[Ken]

Major event? Hmm... anything in particular you are looking for? At the top of my head, I cant think of any one thing that stands out. Perhaps for my husband? Some 2 years ago, he made a very bad business decision which ended up plunging him into huge debt.

Okay from what you guys are saying, its scaring me haha! Is something suppose to happen to me?

Hi TatYoong,

I mean your chart with this timing does not show a problem with having kids.  It is rare to see such a chart had problem having kid that is why I wanted a major event in your life to decide which is the more appropriate hour for you.  Which year and day you guys got married?  Also how long have you guys been trying for kid?

[Xuan]

Hi Tat Yoong,

I can imagine the kind of pressure your husband is going through, working hard to pay off debts. Events orgainising business is demanding and usually eating into weekends and public holidays. By the end of each working day, he should be very tired, not to mention his state of mind. A well rested body and mind do contribute to better chances of conception.

There should never be a 'time' frame to have baby. Many families suffer this syndrome, especially when ad campaigns are constantly pushing the message sub-consciously. Hectic lifestyle and unsettled state of minds does contribute to the problem. It may not be a medical issue, rather a change in mindset and liftstyle may be the way to go.

Rest well, eat healthly and exercise regularly, things might just happen.

Regards,
Xuan